The
Decision to Change
So we come
to the point where life is no longer working for us. We are serious about making a real change. We
have decided we want to lose weight, we want a loving relationship, we want a
better job, we want more money, we want better health, and more.
We charge
out and buy the books, create New Year’s resolutions, get the personal trainer,
create goals, write down ideas, take the trainings and more. We are filled with
motivation, inspiration and new found conviction. Why is it that within a week
or two most of us are right back where we started.
We have to
look at life as a number of decisions, every day we are deciding, we decide who
to believe, what truth to take on, what job to take, what relationship we say
yes/no to, how we act, who we like, what food to eat and even who we chose to
be. We have to decide how important and how badly we want the change we are
longing for then we need to break it down and piece by piece we need to replace
bad habits and negative emotions/experiences with new behavioural patterns.
A habit is
created by extensive repetition of behaviour until the behaviour imprints on
our unconscious mind, which is the 80% of us that is out of our awareness but
is running our behaviours and holds our habits.
The behaviour is trigged by some sort of cue and often there is (at
least in forming the habit) a reward for the behaviour. Once the pattern is
imprinted we run it so that whenever we have the cue the behaviour starts
outside of our consciousness. Remember
that the mind only knows what it has survived so far, change is scary as change creates new input
and new thought processes in the brain which it has not yet learned to deal
with. The mind wants to return to
stability and that is the known habit we want to get rid of. It will do anything to have us not change and
it does not always work in our favour. The key is to change many small things
bit by bit and form new habits to move us in the direction we want to go.
In order to
create change we need to decide what change is necessary, what steps we will
take, what goals to follow, what will keep us on track and decide to start NOW.
Facing
change is not easy, especially without the right skills and tools and depending
on the size of the change you are committing to. It can be extremely beneficial
to not go it alone but to have some support on your journey. As Einstein said,
you cannot change a problem with the same mind that created it.
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